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We collect many titles throughout our lives, but sometimes the most beautiful ones can quietly eclipse the woman beneath them. A reflection on motherhood, identity and remembering the woman behind the title.

There comes a moment in life when you pause and realise ... you don't recognise yourself anymore. Where did your younger self go to? How did she disappear ? Are all of your old dreams and aspirations evaporated into the mist of the abyss never to resurface? did "they" finally win? They're judgement and rejection of our dreams became louder than our own desires no matter what they were. You've carried so many roles, daughter, partner, mother, friend colleague- and with e

When children are babies, we give them all our love and attention, constantly attending to their every need, protecting them from falls and trips and teaching them right from wrong. Sacrificing our time for them, putting them before everything without as much as a thought for ourselves and to be honest we don't actually see this as sacrifice at all. As they become toddlers and find their independence we slowly release them into the world of the unknown, now being vigilant an

I don't know how many times I have heard that exact same phrase. Actually I have heard the same person say the same phrase on the exact same podcast multiple times and each time, I think its a great podcast but thats as far as it goes, onto the next episode. However that is not how this revelation was today, because today in-fact this weekend has been reflection time. Not on the past weeks events or the last quarter not even the last year or work or family or goals. This h

In life, we often find ourselves at a crossroads, faced with decisions that could shape our future. Whether its choosing a career, a relationship or a lifestyle, the concept of the "right path" can be elusive, but what exactly does it mean to find the right path? Is there a single correct route, or do we each have our own unique journey to follow? Lets explore this notion further. We are constantly looking for the right path. Often when life is a challenge we think that we

Sometimes a requirement of finding clarity is to be totally alone with our own thoughts. Time away from everything that is familiar gives us that space to uncloud our minds of chores and daily tasks. A fresh perspective on plans and ideas, that we always had, we simply have not yet found the time or space to develop them. A new view or a change of scenery can be all the inspiration we need to find our balance, to find the clarity and reason to focus on our next chapter. Wh

Autumn season is normally chilly and the air somehow smells different to me. I love the changing season, the leaves falling from the trees, the crisp weather that nips at our fingers and toes. The darker evenings and any excuse to curl up under the duvet for hot chocolate and a dvd day. However September also is a stark reminder that I no longer get to share these moments with my Mother. She hated the turn of the season and the dark evenings, she said she felt closed in by

Finding myself in the 5th decade of my life has led to a multitude of emotions and not all of them have been positive. Everyone seems to have an opinion. Everyone seems to know me better than I know myself, at least that is what they tell themselves. How much of the real me do they really know and more importantly how many of them take the time to stop and ask anything about me without being all knowing. I had spent the last year or two constantly telling myself, "I'm too

It is almost the anniversary of my Mother's passing. I thought I knew her. It turns out that I learned more about her as a woman after her passing than I ever did when I had the opportunity to talk to her. She knew me for all of my 49 years, yet I only knew her for 49 of her 69 years. I'm pretty sure like me you think you know your mother. We place them on these high pedestals and we think they are perfect or they should be - they raised us , they taught us right from wro

What is a weekly pause you may be wondering? A weekly pause is you time. A day in the week where you take a whole day just for you. A day where you are excluded from everything work orientated or chore related. A day to do nothing other than you related exploration. A day to reflect, to rest, to dream, to follow your own path and to do those things you never get around to because everyone else expects you to drop everything for them. A pause day is that one day that you

Pity is a form of external validation that is based off feelings of inferiority. The desire of external validation and the internal lack of self esteem is a serious 1-2 punch knocking down our happiness levels. - Anon Protecting ourselves from the outside world even sometimes from those nearest and dearest to us is not about closing everyone else out it is more about protecting ourselves from the overwhelming feeling and knowledge of not being able to control the tsunami of

If each of us are the main character in the story of our lives, what would your story be ? Every choice, decision and thought created the next chapter in your story. If we thought about our lives in that manner would we try to create something truly worth watching? If your life up to now was written and produced into a book or movie would it inspire you to buy it ? I am betting no matter how incredible or shocking you feel your life has been up until this moment, few of u

TRULY LOVING ANOTHER MEANS LETTING GO OF ALL EXPECTATIONS, IT MEANS FULL ACCEPTANCE, EVEN CELEBRATING OF ANOTHER'S PERSONHOOD - Karen Casey We are told a Mother's love is unconditional. A bond that nothing can penetrate much less break. A Mother's love is precious and undying. Walt Disney can not create the depth or intimacy of the emotions that come with a Mother's Love. It gives us that false feeling of security when we think of that diamond that is described as a Mot

Affirmations are positive statements that repeated often to ourselves can change our mindset and help us to build barriers from within ourselves as a protection against negativity, self sabotage and even toxic thought processes that may prevent us from being all that we can be. Bill Kaulitz - wrote " I am the author of my life, unfortunatey I am writing in pen so I can't erase my mistakes." I personally do not believe in mistakes, I strongly believe that everything we do , t

A day of celebration of love or just another reason for retailers to extract money from our already overstretched budgets? ​ February 14th here we are yet again. Local shops, stores and grocery outlets are buzzing with activity. Roses by the dozen, chocolates and gifts, no expense spared in an effort to show the one we love how much they mean to us. But do we really need to show our affection to one another in such a manner? Surely our actions toward one another says so m

It has been one of those weeks, or is it one of those months in fact one of those days except that currently it feels like one of those days every day. You know the ones I mean, where all blame and fingers point directly at you, even when it is nothing to do with you. You weren't even there, you don't remember or what are they even talking about ? This is not a senior moment, you have not lost your mind. This is my life, is it yours too? It feels like as women we are cons

Tears. Have you ever thought about why we cry? Those beautiful crystal droplets that twinkle from our eyes. We cry when we are happy, when we are sad, when we watch our children do something for the first time, when we grieve, at weddings, at funerals and sometimes out of frustration, we cry when we are fearful and when we are proud. It is a natural emotion yet for some reason we want to conceal it, as though it is a sign of great weakness. Why does crying have such a sti